9.13.2003

"I did not care for your phone call today. You don't have the slightest clue about what you speak."

Incorrect. My sister and I have a very clear picture of what's going on there. You just don't like hearing the truth. Too bad.

"Almost every day is devoted solely to your mother. One problem after another, one appointment after another, non stop. Medical Insurance problems, Life Insurance problems, bills up the ass."

So, deal with it. We keep hearing about it non stop right? Get some part time in home care to help with Mom. As I've said before and I'll say it again it isn't that hard. In fact I know you had a pretty sweet deal for a part time nurse recently and you deliberately sabotaged it. What the fuck were you thinking?

"We cannot travel, as we went to Calif recently, to see some old friends. Jan awoke ( crying ) at 3:00 am and wanted to go home. So much for our trip."

You should have known better. Mom needs to feel safe and secure and she confuses easily. Going on a road trip like that was dumb.

"You make one phone call, catch her crying, and raise hell with me. Well, why don't YOU take care of her for a couple of years, and lets see how you do."

Keep emotionally and mentally abusing my mother and that might come to pass... on your dime.

"What we have here, is a very sick woman, and her need for absolutely everything to be done for her. She has no need for a husband, just someone to attend to her needs."

Again incorrect. She has an overwhelming need for a husband who can step up and deal with her illness and make good sensible decisions. So far I've been observing a serious deficiency in that department.

"I would be very happy if I never ever saw Linda again, and I am aware that Jan needs or likes to see her."

Linda isn't a bad person. You just don't like her because she never puts up with your bullshit. Why don't you just drop the Linda-hating act ok? It solves nothing and to be honest nobody cares.

"I could go on and on, but the real truth is that you are incredibly ignorant of how difficult caring for Jan is."

Ah, yes. The classic Dad 'you just don't understand' line. I knew that was coming up again soon. Always does. Guess what? YOU don't understand. Everyone else does. Stop and consider that for a moment, if you can.

"Save your criticizm for someone else. If YOU can do a better job, then step up to the plate."

See my comment above, stupid.

Okay. So, the bottom line. I'm getting very very tired of your antics.
1) Get part time in home care for Mom.
2) Stop creating more friction between yourself and Linda and Larry.
3) Get some counseling for yourself from a psychiatrist. You clearly need it.