Room Mate Woes

What a drag. Senor 23 is moving out. He's been here at my place for a little under a year. It has been great having him as a room mate again. We lived together for a long time at the B Street house downtown so we know each other's habits and quirks, we get along quite well. Everything was cool here but he's decided to move back in with his girlfriend. I think he's making a terrible mistake getting back together with her. Things between them didn't work out the first time and when he moved out of her place he rented a room from me here. He needed to escape, to get away from her unstable behavior. Now he's headed right back into the fire. I'm sorry to see him go.

Good room mates are tough to find. My experiences have varied widely with them from super cool to extra hateful. I've learned the hard way that strangers usually don't work well with me in a room mate situation so I've tried to only live with people I've known a long time. Mainly good friends. Right now none of my friends are looking for a place to live. I'd rather pay the full amount of rent myself and not sub-let another room until a close friend is up for it. Otherwise I'll end up placing an ad somewhere for a room mate and more than likely the only people who will respond will be the freaks, losers, and fuckups. Paying the rent by myself is going to be tough on me financially. The monthly rent here is $1200. I'm already borderline broke most of the time since I can't seem to manage my money.

Autumn has suggested I use Craigslist to find a room mate, but for me that's not an option. She's placed ads on Craigslist looking for people to share her apartment with and so far they've been junk. Total closet cases. She had a short crew cut man-hating lesbian Filipina that acted real weird whenever I was there at the apartment on weekends. That was always an uncomfortable scene. One of her past room mates was a guy named Jove that came out here to the Bay Area for school at the Culinary Institute. He was harmless enough, however he did have some odd habits that were slightly creepy. Let's just say he isn't someone I'd want living under the same roof with me. Autumn's most recent room mate Jeff hasn't been too cool either.

I still held out some hope that Autumn might like to move in with me but she continuously comes up with excuses for it not working out. At this point I am certain Autumn isn't willing to live with me under any circumstances. She must have made up her mind some time ago to pre-disqualify me as a potential room mate. Autumn seems content with being little more than a part-time girlfriend, which makes me feel depressed and unhappy often. When we first started dating I was okay with only spending weekends together. The time apart gave us plenty of space to do our own thing. We could stay focused on our jobs, do whatever we wanted with friends, and remain independent. These days I miss her badly during the week. I suppose over this whole time that we've been together what I wanted out of the relationship has changed.